Daily D – Proverbs 29:11
Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back. PROVERBS 29:11 (NLT)
An invitation to argue arrived in my email inbox a couple of days ago. Someone responded to a publication I send to our mailing list each week. The correspondent did not care for a couple of thoughts from other people I included and wanted me to know using rather strong language.
Not many invitations to rumble like that come my way, a fact for which I am grateful. It took a while to determine how to respond. Wise counsel was sought and given. Prayer was employed. A fitting and gracious solution came to mind.
In the end, however, considering the source, considering the person lives far away, and considering that even the best explanation was unlikely to change the correspondent’s mind, I chose to reject the invitation to argue.
The heat of the accusations bore evidence of an entrenched and narrower-than-necessary worldview. Nothing I could say would likely change this person’s mind. As much as I want everyone to like me, and as much as I want to live at peace with everyone, I truly doubt peace with this person is possible.
As far as I can tell, we two have never met, and yet this person feels comfortable enough with me to blister my britches. It is hard to build a relationship with someone who refuses to start on common ground.
We do not have to attend every argument to which we are invited. Sometimes we need to respond like those penguins in the movie Madagascar: “Smile and wave, boys. Smile and wave.”
Some people cannot or will not be convinced or corrected. Move on to kinder souls and more open minds.
One of my favorite questions asks, “If you were wrong, would you want to know?” This is a good question to ask earnest individuals. However, I have asked it only to be told rather forcefully, “I’m not wrong!” It is impossible to discuss anything fruitfully if one side’s theme song is I Shall Not Be Moved.
We can hold our peace like today’s proverb encourages. We can look for whiter fields and more receptive correspondents. We can also take ultra-hard-headed individuals to our Father in heaven and seek his highest and best for them. He loves them as much as he loves us. His ways of bringing them to the truth are better than ours.
Of course, it is also good to double-check our own motives and intentions. Is there anything lacking? Is there anything we need to correct? Is there anything we need to confess to God?
Sometimes it is better to hold back than to engage. Methinks this is one of those times.
I will quietly hold back from this invitation to argue.
Our Father, please minister your grace and peace to my correspondent. Speak truth and grace to that life. Heal the hurts that lead this person to hurt others. Renew and redirect this person. Amen.
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1 Samuel 24:16, 17 When David finished saying these things to him, Saul replied, “Is that your voice, David my son?” Then Saul wept aloud and said to David, “You are more righteous than I, for you have done what is good to me though I have done what is evil to you.” (CSB)
1 Samuel 18:5 David marched out with the army and was successful in everything Saul sent him to do. Saul put him in command of the fighting men, which pleased all the people and Saul’s servants as well. (CSB)
1 Samuel 13:13, 14 Samuel said to Saul, “You have been foolish. You have not kept the command the LORD your God gave you. It was at this time that the LORD would have permanently established your reign over Israel, but now your reign will not endure. The LORD has found a man after his own heart, and the LORD has appointed him as ruler over his people, because you have not done what the LORD commanded.” (CSB)