How Helpful is Your Help?
I had the privilege of sitting in on a conversation with Carl George and the Auxano Consulting Services team (auxano.com). Dr. George has long been recognized as one of the leading thinkers and writers in the area of church health and leadership (Prepare Your Church for the Future, Nine Keys to Effective Church Leadership, and others).
Dr. George related a story about how he learned two important questions for his consulting work. He was seated next to a highly successful businessman on a plane who explained that he helped turn weak sales team members into powerful sales associates.
When asked how he accomplished this, the businessman told him he started with two questions:
- What do you want to do?
- How are you getting in your way?
Those are great coaching questions.
The first coach training event I attended with CoachU (coachu.com) provided a similar trio of questions:
- What do you want more of or less of?
- What’s stopping you?
- What one thing can you do this week that will get you at least fifty percent toward your goal?
These diagnostic tools are simple and powerful. They force people to clarify what they really, really want. They empower people to pursue those goals with passion and purpose.
Dr. George said, “I can teach people a lot if they have the self-image to receive it.” If the leaders we work with do not possess the necessary self-image to receive the assistance of a strategic outsider, it then falls to the consultant to edify the client to the place where he or she can receive assistance.
Dr. George continued by giving an example that made this fantasy baseball enthusiast sit up and pay attention. He said, “The speed at which a baseball can be thrown is not the business of the pitcher, but the skill of the catcher.”
He explained, “It’s not how good you are, but how receptive the client is.” Then he dropped one of his priceless gems into the conversation: “Help is not help until it is perceived as help.”
Good stuff, eh?
These questions and examples will stick with me. I plan to deploy them often.
Questions for reflection and application:
- How will you use these diagnostic questions?
- Who are you currently working with who needs to ponder them?
- Think back on your recent interactions with leaders. Which of them were not ready to receive additional information? What can you do to build them up so that they can benefit from the wisdom of a strategic outsider?
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1 Timothy 2:1-4 I urge you, first of all, to pray for all people. Ask God to help them; intercede on their behalf, and give thanks for them. Pray this way for kings and all who are in authority so that we can live peaceful and quiet lives marked by godliness and dignity. This is good and pleases God our Savior, who wants everyone to be saved and to understand the truth. (NLT)
1 Timothy 1:15, 16 This is a trustworthy saying, and everyone should accept it: “Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners”—and I am the worst of them all. But God had mercy on me so that Christ Jesus could use me as a prime example of his great patience with even the worst sinners. Then others will realize that they, too, can believe in him and receive eternal life. (NLT)